The Power of Therapeutic Art: Building Resilience and Connection Through Creativity

Being a parent is tough. Ever had one of those days where no matter what you do, it feels like you're getting it wrong? You say the wrong thing, offer the wrong snack, pick the wrong outfit, or even mess up their hairstyle.

I had one of those days just this week, and it ended with me saying the wrong thing right before we left for school. Before I knew it my little girl was upset and crying and had clearly lost all trust in what I was saying and OMG I felt awful.

Parenting young children is exhausting and on occasion can even be deeply heartbreaking especially when you don't mean to get it so wrong. But what if I told you there’s a simple way to reconnect that doesn’t cost a thing—just a little time and some basic art supplies you probably already have at home?

Today I am exploring the theory behind therapeutic art techniques, why they’re invaluable at home and how you can incorporate them this holiday season to nurture your child’s emotional development.

“Art it seems is not just a medium for expression - it is a form of medicine for a fractured world.”

— Christopher, G. (2024). Healing trauma and building empathy through art therapy. International Journal of Art Therapy, 29(4), 182–183. https://doi.org/10.1080/17454832.2024.2418226

I really love this quote, as it draws attention to what art is and how it helps all of us.

Creative activities can foster resilience and teach children essential coping skills for life’s ups and downs. It is also a great way strengthen family connections for the times when things don’t go as planned.

So Why is Art Therapeutic?

Therapeutic art is grounded in the idea that creativity helps us process emotions, communicate nonverbally, and find calm in chaos. For children, who often lack the words to articulate complex feelings, art provides an outlet to explore their inner world safely.

When you introduce therapeutic art techniques at home, you create a nurturing environment where children feel seen, supported, and connected. This sense of safety and emotional validation is crucial for building resilience—a child’s ability to bounce back from challenges and adapt to adversity.

But surly I need to be a great artist or at least a good artist?

The short answer is Nope. You don’t have to be an artist at all but I would advise that you do need the ability to be able to enjoy arts and crafts with your children. If you are struggle with this please read this blog post, How To Do Arts And Craft With Young Children Without Loosing Your Mind! because lets face it we have all been there and still to this day the mention of glitter sends shivers down my spine.

If you are already at this point and enjoy doing art but what to be able to get the most out of your creative sessions then this blog is for you.

How Arts and Crafts Build Resilience in Children:

1. Creative Activities Encourage
   Emotional Expression
   Art allows children to express what they may struggle to say with words. By painting or drawing emotions, children learn to identify, process, and regulate feelings like sadness, anger, or frustration.
   
   

2. Arts & Crafts Foster Problem-Solving Skills
   Creative activities often involve trial and error—choosing colours, solving design challenges, or deciding how to piece materials together. These small problem-solving moments translate into broader life skills, teaching children how to approach challenges with curiosity and persistence.
   
   

3. Creativity Builds Confidence
   Completing a craft project, no matter how simple, gives children a sense of accomplishment. This boosts their self-esteem and reinforces the belief that they can tackle tasks and achieve goals.
   
   

4. Creative Activities Strengthen Relationships
   When parents and children create art together, it opens the door to quality bonding time. These shared experiences foster trust and connection, laying the foundation for open communication in the future.
   
   

5. Creative Activities Promote Mindfulness and Stress Relief
   The act of creating—whether it’s colouring, moulding clay, or painting—has a calming, meditative effect. Engaging in art helps children (and parents!) stay present, reducing anxiety and encouraging relaxation.

Simple Therapeutic Art Activities for the Holidays

The holiday season is the perfect time to slow down and reconnect with your child through creative play. Here are some easy techniques you can try:

1. "My Year in Colours" Collage

• What You’ll Need: Old magazines, scissors, glue, and a large sheet of paper.

• Activity: Encourage your child to create a collage representing their feelings and experiences over the past year. Use colours, images, and words to express highs, lows, and everything in between. Discuss the collage together to help your child process their emotions and feel supported.

2. Gratitude Ornaments

• What You’ll Need: Clear plastic baubles, paper strips, markers, and small decorative items (like glitter or sequins).

• Activity: Write down things your child is thankful for on paper strips, roll them up, and place them inside the ornament. Decorate together, then hang it on the tree as a reminder of positivity and mindfulness.

3. Create an "Emotion Wheel"

• What You’ll Need: Paper plates, markers, and a split pin to create a spinning wheel.

• Activity: Divide the plate into sections, each representing a different emotion (happy, sad, angry, excited). Ask your child to draw a face for each emotion. Use the wheel to talk about how they’re feeling and what might help when they’re experiencing big emotions.

4. Family Vision Board for the New Year

• What You’ll Need: A poster board, magazines, scissors, and glue.

• Activity: Work together to create a vision board of what your family wants to experience or achieve in the coming year. Focus on shared goals like spending more time together or learning something new. This activity encourages hope and teamwork.

Why Start Now?

The holiday season can be overwhelming for children, with disrupted routines, social events, and heightened emotions. Integrating therapeutic art into your time together not only brings joy but also equips your child with tools to navigate challenges calmly and confidently.

As a parent, these moments are an opportunity to model healthy emotional expression and build a deeper connection with your child. Beyond the crafts themselves, it’s the act of sitting together, listening, and creating that will leave a lasting impact.

Final Thoughts

Therapeutic art isn’t about being perfect or artistic—it’s about the process. By carving out time for creative play, you’re giving your child a gift far more valuable than anything wrapped under the tree: the gift of connection, resilience, and emotional strength.

With just a few simple materials, you can set the stage for meaningful moments that will shape your child’s emotional well-being for years to come.

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Oh, and if you’re wondering about my little girl—don’t worry, it all turned out okay. I pulled out the big guns with some heartfelt apologies and explained that even mummies don’t always get it right. We had a little heart-to-heart about how messing up is part of life, but as long as we say sorry and try to make it better, it’s all good in the end. Then she looked me straight in the eye and said she wanted to use glitter. A tiny piece of my soul shriveled up, but I smiled and said, "Of course, sweetheart." Ah, parenting—you win some, you lose some... and sometimes you just have to let it go and sparkle.

How To Do Arts And Crafts With Young Children Without Losing Your Mind

Ah, arts and crafts with young children—a wholesome, creative bonding experience. At least, that’s the dream. The reality? Glitter everywhere (yes, *everywhere*), a toddler crying because their macaroni penguin doesn’t look like the Mona Lisa, and you wondering how on earth you’ve ended up superglued to your dining table. Sound familiar? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there. Let’s talk survival strategies, sprinkled with humour, because you’re going to need both.

I ended up drawing on the table with the paints too. Feeling inspired by Alice and Wonderland.

1. Embrace the Chaos (But Contain It)

Picture this: your toddler proudly "redecorates" the walls with poster paint, and you realise your living room now resembles an abstract art gallery. To keep things manageable:

We tried to contain the mess.

• Set up a craft zone:  Lay down an old sheet or a shower curtain on the floor. Bonus: you can shake it out in the garden when you're done and pretend it’s an installation piece.
  Contain the mess: Use baking trays or shallow boxes to corral the materials. Don’t worry if it goes off the edges its still better then not having one.

• Limit supplies: Only offer what you’re okay with cleaning up later. Glitter, for instance, is a choice...but so is regret.

The results were great these monster recycling bins loived in our kitchen for almost a year.

2. Manage Expectations—Yours and Theirs
If you think you’re about to create a Pinterest-worthy masterpiece, let me save you some heartache: you’re not. The goal is fun, not fine art. If your child’s "butterfly" looks more like a squashed potato, smile, nod, and resist the urge to "fix" it. They’re proud of it, that’s what matters.

3. Keep It Simple, Silly

Young children have the attention span of a gnat, so don’t overcomplicate things. Stick to activities that can be completed in 10-15 minutes (or at least paused mid-chaos). Here are a few foolproof ideas:

• Paper plate masks: One plate, some string, crayons, and ta-da! Instant creativity with minimal effort.

• Pasta necklaces: Cheap, cheerful, and a great way to work on fine motor skills. Just don’t be surprised if they eat half the materials.

• Nature crafts: Grab leaves, sticks, or stones from the garden and get sticking.
  Bonus: nature provides the mess *outside*.

  
  
  True Story:

  "My daughter recently drew a snowman for a christmas card design for school, it has a lovely multicolured scarf, two scary large eyes and an expression that looks more like somthing from a horror movie, obvously we have printed them and are sending out to all the family. Merry Christmas everyone."
  
  

4. Have a Plan (But Be Flexible)

Children are unpredictable, and crafts rarely go to plan. You’ll spend half an hour meticulously setting up the paint station, only for your child to decide they want to play with stickers instead. That’s okay. Follow their lead—it’s less about the activity and more about the time you spend together.

Pro Tip: Always have a backup activity like colouring sheets or play dough ready for when the glitter glue phase ends abruptly.

5. Prep Like a Pro

Top tip: Blu Tack the paint pots to the tray. Trust me.

If you can prep dinner while balancing a toddler on your hip, you can prep crafts. Here’s how:

• Pre-cut materials: Scissors in tiny hands are a hazard, and the last thing you need is a spontaneous haircut.

• Portion out supplies: Trust me, handing them a whole bottle of glue will end badly.

• Keep baby wipes handy: Glue, paint, unidentified sticky substances—baby wipes can handle it all. They’re basically magic.

6. Let Go of Perfection

Your house doesn’t need to look like a magazine spread, and you don’t need to post the "results" on Instagram. (Unless you want to caption it with something like, “Our first attempt at Picasso…nailed it.”) The beauty of crafting with kids is in the memories you’re creating, not the mess you’re avoiding.

A last minute set up but a great decoration for the tree and one happy little girl.

True Story:
I promised my little girl we’d do some crafts after school, but I was exhausted from a tough day and hadn’t even managed to start the housework—I’d only just put the hoover out, intending to use it later. When she came home and (quite annoyed) asked where the craft materials were, I scrambled to set everything up, forgetting to put down the mat to contain the mess. Spotting the hoover nearby, I figured, "Why not? I’ll clean up later."
We spent a lovely 30 minutes cutting, sticking and—my absolute favorite—glittering a little card train she’d made the day before. Glitter, sequins, and glue went everywhere, but none of it mattered. She was so happy with her masterpiece, and a few minutes of cleanup later, everything was back to normal. Sometimes, the chaos is worth it.

7. Know When to Quit

Some days, it’s just not going to happen. Maybe the kids are tired, or maybe *you* are. And that’s okay. Stick the craft kit back in the cupboard, plop them in front of CBeebies and pat yourself on the back for trying. Parenting isn’t about perfection; it’s about showing up.

Arts and crafts with young children can be a wild ride, but it’s also full of magic moments: the joy of watching them proudly display their wobbly creations, the belly laughs when things go hilariously wrong, and the sweet satisfaction of spending quality time together. Remember, the mess can wait—these moments won’t. Now, where did I put the baby wipes?

Beyond #SmartphoneFreeChildhood: Envisioning a Healthier Digital Ecosystem for All

In recent months, the #SmartphoneFreeChildhood movement has sparked vital conversations across the UK, resonating with thousands of parents, educators and celebrities who are concerned about the digital well-being of our youngest generations. Originating from a grassroots WhatsApp group, this campaign advocates for delaying smartphone access for children until the age of 14, aiming to shield them from the potential pitfalls of early digital immersion.

The Ripple Effect of Adult Digital Habits

While this movement addresses an essential aspect of our digital age and is a welcomed and incredibly important movement that warrants as much attention as possible, it also unveils a broader cultural pattern: the omnipresent glow of smartphone screens in the hands of adults. My young daughter recently asked me why a group of teenagers were not talking to each other, but instead glued to their phones. This moment was a stark reminder of how our children are closely observing and inevitably mimicking our behaviours.

Research consistently shows that children do not simply grow in isolation; they are keen observers, mirroring the behaviours and habits of the adults around them. This mimicry extends into the digital realm, where the constant checking of notifications and endless scrolling on social platforms by adults sets a potent example for young eyes.

Studies in developmental psychology suggest that the behaviours children observe daily, including our digital interactions, play a significant role in shaping their social and cognitive development. Jonathan Haidt’s "The Anxious Generation - How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness" underscores this point by highlighting how pervasive smartphone use has exacerbated mental health issues among the young. [Read more about Haidt's research here.](https://jonathanhaidt.com/social-media/)

Why We Need to Broaden the Discussion

Acknowledging the influence of adult behaviour on children's mental and emotional development brings us to a crucial question: If we are committed to fostering a healthier digital future for our children, shouldn't we also consider the digital habits we, as adults, are modelling? The prevalence of smartphones and the habitual tethering to these devices can often detract from the quality of our face-to-face interactions—not just in our homes but also in public spaces where the social fabric of a community is woven. My concern is that if we as parents are not able to make changes in our smartphone usage how are we ever meant to inspire and support our children in making these changes?

The impact of reduced face-to-face interaction on social and emotional well-being is well documented in numerous studies, including those published in the Guilford Press Periodicals, which found significant links between smartphone use and increased loneliness and depression.

“Our findings suggest that following friends rather than strangers and limiting time spent on social media may lead to significant improvements in well-being and that moderately active engagement may be the most adaptive.” - Too Much of a Good Thing: Who We Follow, What We Do, And How Much Time We Spend on Social Media Affects Well-Being - Melissa Hunt, Katherine All, Brennan Burns and Kyler Li [Access the findings of this study here. (https://guilfordjournals.com/doi/epdf/10.1521/jscp.2021.40.1.46)

Proposing a Societal Shift

“Six out of 10 adults are concerned about the influence technology has on their relationship with their children, and nearly one out of four wish they had more information about technology and parenting, but don’t know where to turn. Dr. David Schramm with Utah State University Extension" - www.nationaldayofunplugging.com

The imperative now is not merely to limit children's direct exposure to smartphones but to culturally redefine the norms around smartphone usage. Sometimes radical action calls for some radical ideas, so one slightly more radical suggestion may be establishing designated "Smartphone Zones" in public areas, we can cultivate environments that encourage people to engage consciously with their devices. This may not only help in moderating our digital habits but also enhance the quality of our personal interactions.

Introducing public awareness campaigns similar to public health initiatives can drive the point home. These campaigns could emphasise the benefits of unplugging periodically and the positive impact of direct human connections on our mental health. Such efforts would not only educate adults about the effects of their digital habits on themselves and the surrounding community but also model positive behaviour for children who look up to them.

For instance, campaigns like the National Day of Unplugging have shown effectiveness in encouraging people to pause their digital lives and reconnect with their immediate environment. [Learn about the National Day of Unplugging here.](https://www.nationaldayofunplugging.com/)

Balancing Change and Freedom

Addressing potential criticisms is crucial; advocating for a change in smartphone habits is not akin to demanding a ban on smoking. Unlike secondhand smoke, smartphone overuse does not inflict physical harm on bystanders. However, the psychological and social effects are palpable. Striking a balance between advocating for healthier behaviours and respecting individual freedoms involves framing these changes as enhancements to public well-being, not as restrictions on personal liberties.

Call to Action: Reflect, Discuss, and Engage

As we continue to navigate the complexities of a digitally connected world, we should all reflect on the impact our smartphone habits have on the younger generation. This reflection should not end with mere acknowledgement but should spur us into action. Communities can initiate dialogues through workshops or public forums to discuss the role of digital devices in our lives and explore practical ways to implement healthier digital habits.

I encourage each one of us to participate actively in these discussions—whether by joining local community efforts, engaging in dialogues on platforms like this, or simply starting conversations within our families about the balance between digital and real-world interactions. By doing so, we not only enhance our own lives but also set a positive example for our children, showing them that while technology is a valuable tool, it should not overshadow the human connections that make life meaningful.

Looking Forward

The #SmartphoneFreeChildhood movement has opened the door to a crucial discourse on digital well-being. Let’s take this opportunity to broaden the dialogue, involving all age groups and stakeholders. By collectively reevaluating and adjusting our smartphone usage, we can build a more connected, mindful, and empathetic society. This isn't just about reducing screen time—it's about enhancing the quality of the time we spend together and tackling the growing mental health epidemic that is gripping our country.

If you do have a moment free, please feel free to comment below and let me know your thoughts on this topic.

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Reference

1. #SmartphoneFreeChildhood Movement: https://sueatkinsparentingcoach.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/Smartphones-downloadable.pdf

2. Jonathan Haidt’s Work on Digital Impact on Youth: - [Jonathan Haidt - The Anxious Generation](https://jonathanhaidt.com/social-media/)

3. Too Much of a Good Thing: Who We Follow, What We Do, And How Much Time We Spend on Social Media Affects Well-Being - (https://guilfordjournals.com/doi/epdf/10.1521/jscp.2021.40.1.46)

4. Public Awareness Campaigns on Digital Habits: - National Day of Unplugging-(https://www.nationaldayofunplugging.com/)

Nurturing Young Minds: Cultivating Creativity, Dreams, and Resilience

Welcome, dear readers, to our monthly roundup where we gather the essence of our recent newsletters into one comprehensive blog post. If you happened to miss any of our previous newsletters, fear not, for you'll find a condensed version of their valuable insights right here.

Cultivating Creativity:

In our first newsletter, we embarked on a journey into the realm of fostering creativity and imagination in young minds. We explored the stages of creative development and emphasised the crucial role adults play in guiding children through their creative journey. From nature art to storytelling adventures, we provided a plethora of activities to spark imagination and innovation in children.

Encouraging Dreams and Aspirations:

Our second newsletter focused on nurturing aspirations and encouraging dreams—a significant aspect of a child's growth and self-discovery. We discussed the importance of creating a supportive environment where children feel empowered to share and visualise their dreams. Additionally, we introduced downloadable activities to inspire goal-setting and provided creative ways to incorporate goal-setting into family routines.

Fostering a Positive Mindset:

Lastly, we delved into the topic of fostering a positive mindset in young people, particularly in today's tumultuous world. Through real-life stories, role-play, and practical activities like gratitude journaling and mindful breathing, we explored ways to teach resilience and optimism.

Bringing It All Together:

As we reflect on these themes, we recognise the interconnectedness of imagination, dreams, and resilience in shaping the lives of our children. By nurturing creativity, encouraging dreams, and fostering a positive mindset, we equip them with the tools they need to navigate life's challenges with confidence and grace.

Activities to Inspire Your Little Stars:

Here's a compiled list of activities mentioned across our newsletters to spark creativity, encourage dreams, and foster resilience:

1. Nature Art: Take a nature walk and gather materials to create unique art pieces.

2. Story Stones: Paint scenes and characters on stones for imaginative storytelling.

3. Imagination Journals: Provide journals for children to freely express their wildest dreams and ideas.

4. Shadow Puppetry: Craft shadow stories using a flashlight and hands.

5. Vision Boards: Create visual representations of dreams and aspirations.

6. Goal Journals: Encourage children to maintain journals for goal-setting and tracking progress.

7. Family Dream Night: Share dreams and aspirations as a family to foster support and shared goals.

8. Gratitude Journaling: Write down three things to be grateful for each day.

9. Mindful Breathing: Teach children the practice of mindful breathing to find calmness.

10. Power of Affirmations: Create affirmations to instil positivity and self-belief.

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As we continue on this journey, to create a world where every child is empowered to dream, create, and thrive. Stay tuned for more resources and insights to support the holistic development of children everywhere. Plus next month we will be diving into the topic of Connection, taking a look at the release of my latest book The Last Piece of Puzzle.

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Ensure Your Children's Safe Gaming Journey - by Daniel Sherwin

In the digital age, video games have become an integral part of many children's lives. They offer entertainment, challenge, and a sense of accomplishment. However, as a parent, it's crucial to ensure that your children are playing video games safely. In this guide, written by Daniel Sherwin from dadsolo.com and presented by Little Star Design Studio, we'll explore essential strategies for parents to keep their kids' gaming experiences secure and enjoyable.

Age-Appropriate Gaming
Help your children choose games that are suitable for their age and maturity level. The PEGI (Pan European Game Information) rating system is a valuable tool for gauging appropriateness. By paying attention to these ratings, you can ensure that your child is exposed to content that aligns with their developmental stage. This proactive approach helps prevent exposure to violent or explicit content that may not be suitable for their age.

Positive Aspects of Gaming
Video games provide children with cognitive advantages, such as improved memory, enhanced cognitive abilities, and better decision-making skills, while also honing their problem-solving capabilities. Additionally, online gaming fosters social skills by enabling interactions with peers in a virtual environment. Recognizing and promoting these positive aspects can help parents maintain a healthy equilibrium between their child's enjoyment of gaming and their overall growth and development.

Online Chatting Communication
Initiate conversations with your child about online chatting. Teach them the importance of not sharing personal information and reporting any suspicious or inappropriate behaviour to you. Creating an open and trusting environment where your child feels comfortable discussing their online experiences is crucial. By doing so, you can address potential issues promptly and protect them from online dangers.

Parental Controls
Utilise parental control features available on gaming platforms to manage and restrict the content your child can access. This ensures they are exposed to age-appropriate material. Setting up these controls allows you to have peace of mind, knowing that your child won't stumble upon content that may be harmful or inappropriate for their age group.

Webcams and Video
Disable webcams and video-sharing features in games to protect your child's privacy. This prevents them from inadvertently sharing their image or personal details. Privacy is a top concern when it comes to online gaming, and taking proactive steps to safeguard your child's identity is essential. Regularly check the settings of the games they play to ensure these features remain disabled.

Playing Games Together
Spend quality time with your child by playing video games together. This not only allows you to bond but also provides insight into the games they enjoy. By actively participating in their gaming experience, you can better understand the content and interactions they encounter. This shared activity can also be an excellent opportunity for discussions about safe gaming practices.

Setting Screen Time Limits
Set reasonable limits on screen time to strike a balance between gaming and other activities, such as homework, physical exercise, and family time. Consistency is key in enforcing these limits. Setting boundaries ensures that your child's gaming habits don't interfere with essential aspects of their life, such as academics and physical well-being. It encourages a healthy and balanced lifestyle.
Ensuring your children's safe gaming experience is a responsibility that comes with the digital age. By following these guidelines, you can help your kids enjoy the many benefits of video games while keeping them safe from potential risks. Open communication, age-appropriate choices, and responsible gaming practices are the keys to a secure and enjoyable gaming journey for your children. Remember that staying involved and informed about your child's gaming activities is the best way to protect them in the online gaming world.

Little Star Design Studio offers an array of carefully-curated resources that can help you nurture your child’s emotional wellbeing. Have a question? Need your own resources? Reach out today.

Nurturing Resilience Through Goal Setting

Hello, and welcome to a guide on nurturing emotional resilience in both children and adults. This blog post brings together insights from this month's newsletters, exploring the importance of goal setting, family goals, and embracing failure as pathways to emotional well-being. Whether you're a mental health professional, an educator, or a parent, this guide is packed with valuable information to support the emotional growth and development of the young minds in your care. Plus a few great tips and resources for you as well.

‘I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.’ -Thomas Edison

The Power of Setting Goals

I am a huge fan of list-making. I have more notebooks than I can count and I regally make several lists during the day however, goal setting isn't just about creating a to-do list; it's about fostering emotional resilience, confidence and a growth mindset, qualities that are vital for children and adults alike.

For children, setting and achieving goals is like discovering a treasure trove of confidence-boosting superpowers. When they witness their dreams becoming tangible goals, they develop a sense of accomplishment that lays the foundation for emotional resilience. These goals can range from improving academic performance to making new friends or learning a new skill.

Children who work toward their goals learn essential life skills such as patience, determination, and problem-solving. Even if they encounter setbacks along the way, these challenges become opportunities to build resilience and adaptability. So, as adults, encouraging children to set and pursue their goals is a powerful tool for nurturing their emotional well-being.

Check out this great activity for goal setting it is an easy one to make and so satisfying. You can colour in the background and the monkey. Then assemble and fill in the spaces with the steps to achieving your goal. Move the monkey up the string each time you get closer to achieving your goal. Check it out below.

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But goal setting isn't just for children; it's equally essential for adults. Setting personal and professional goals provides a sense of purpose and direction. This sense of purpose not only boosts self-esteem but also enhances emotional resilience. It equips adults, including mental health professionals and educators, to navigate life's ups and downs with grace, confidence, and a growth mindset.

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Supporting Goal Setting with Engaging Activities

These activities cater to both children and adults, offering valuable tools to enhance emotional resilience.

For Adults:

1. Goal Journal: Dedicate some quiet time to reflect on your personal and family goals. Share your aspirations with supportive people in your life, fostering open communication and accountability. This practice can help you stay focused and motivated on your journey.

2. Tech-Free Family Time: In today's digital age, setting a goal to have dedicated tech-free moments in your family's routine can be transformative. This practice fosters better communication and nurtures a healthier family dynamic. By reducing screen time, you create space for quality connections with loved ones.

For Children:

1. Goal Rockets: Create a visual reminder of children's goals and achievements with "Goal Rockets." This simple activity helps them stay motivated and focused on their objectives. Displaying their rockets serves as a constant reminder of their progress and encourages them to reach for the stars.

Setting Family Goals: Strengthening Bonds and Shared Achievements

Shifting the focus to the concept of family goals, we find that it's a powerful tool to strengthen the bonds between family members and create a nurturing environment for emotional growth.

Family goals provide a roadmap for shared accomplishments, growth, and cherished moments. It's easy for the day-to-day routines to take over our lives, from school runs to laundry and grocery shopping. But every now and then, it's essential to pause and check in with our partner and children about what we all want to achieve together as a family.

These goals could be as simple as spending more quality time together, having a tech-free evening or weekend, starting a new family tradition, like board game night, or taking a weekly walk in nature. The key is to have fun together and find moments to support each other by having a shared family goal.

To support the process of setting and achieving family goals, consider these activities:

1. Family Vision Board: Gather the family and create a vision board together. Each family member can contribute pictures, words, or drawings representing their aspirations for the year. Display it in a central place as a constant reminder of your collective dreams and the steps you're taking to achieve them.

2. Weekly Family Nature Meetings: Schedule regular outdoor (when possible) family meetings to discuss individual and collective goals. This provides a platform for open communication, mutual support, and the opportunity to celebrate each other's successes, along with spending quality time in nature. It's a simple yet effective way to stay connected and aligned as a family.

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Embracing Failure: The Key to a Growth Mindset

Like most people, failure is something I am all too familiar with and it has always been a hard one to swallow, but quite often after any failure in life comes your greatest achievement. It is a topic that's often overlooked but incredibly vital: the role of failure in developing a growth mindset and achieving life goals. Failure, far from being an obstacle, is a teacher. It's a crucial part of the journey towards emotional resilience, creativity, and a love for learning.

Children and adults who learn to view failure as a learning opportunity develop a growth mindset. This mindset fuels persistence, creativity, and a positive approach to life's challenges.

Real-life success stories of individuals who faced repeated failures before achieving their dreams serve as powerful inspirations. These stories, like those of J.K. Rowling, Walt Disney, Oprah Winfrey, Steven Spielberg, and Thomas Edison, exemplify the power of resilience and the importance of learning from failure on the path to success.

These are my favourite success stories of people I admire, and who keep me going when I have been at rock bottom:

1. J.K. Rowling: Before “Harry Potter” became a global phenomenon, Rowling faced rejections from 12 different publishers. She persevered with her story, and eventually, the series became one of the best-selling book series in history.

2. Walt Disney: Disney was fired from a newspaper for “lacking imagination” and “having no good ideas.” His first animation company went bankrupt. He kept pushing forward, leading to the creation of the Disney empire. (But it was his wife who came up with the name Micky Mouse, just going to show you can’t do it all along and that women have all the best ideas lol)

3. Oprah Winfrey: Oprah faced numerous challenges in her early life and career, including being fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “unfit for TV.” She went on to become a media mogul and influential global figure.

4. Steven Spielberg: Spielberg was rejected from the University of Southern California School of Cinematic Arts multiple times. Despite these setbacks, he persisted and became one of the most influential filmmakers in Hollywood.

5. Thomas Edison: As you may have seen in the quote above, Edison made many unsuccessful attempts before inventing a functional light bulb. His story is often cited as a classic example of perseverance in the face of failure.

These stories exemplify the power of resilience and the importance of learning from failure on the path to success.

As adults, we can encourage the embrace of failure by:

1. Encouraging Open Discussions: Create an environment where setbacks are openly discussed, and everyone learns from them. Sharing personal stories of overcoming failures can inspire and normalise the process.

2. Celebrating Efforts: Acknowledge and celebrate not only the results but also the efforts made. Recognise that progress often involves taking steps forward and occasionally experiencing setbacks.

3. Modelling a Growth Mindset: Share your own experiences with failure and learning. Show that it's okay to make mistakes as long as you use them as opportunities for growth

Conclusion: Nurturing Emotional Resilience

In conclusion, nurturing emotional resilience in children and adults is a holistic journey that involves setting goals, fostering family bonds through shared achievements, and embracing failure as a valuable teacher. These principles, discussed in our newsletters and expanded in this guide, are essential tools for anyone working with families and children or seeking to support their own family's well-being.

By setting and pursuing goals, we empower ourselves and the next generation to face life's challenges with resilience, determination, and a positive outlook. The magic of goal setting, the strength of family bonds, and the wisdom gained from embracing failure all contribute to the emotional growth and well-being of our children and ourselves.

Thank you for joining us on this journey of growth. Wishing you all a wonderful year ahead.

Warm regards,

Samantha Williams

A Parent's Guide to Embracing Presence

The holiday season is upon us, and for many parents, this time of year can be a whirlwind of festivities, shopping and endless to-do lists. In the midst of the chaos, it's easy to get swept away by the demands of the season and lose sight of what truly matters – being present with our children. In this blog post, we'll explore the importance of staying in the moment during the holidays and share some practical tips to help busy parents find calm amidst the holiday frenzy.

The Gift of Presence:

In a world that often glorifies multitasking and constant busyness, the simple act of being present is a precious gift, especially for parents. The holidays provide a unique opportunity to create lasting memories with our children, fostering a sense of connection and warmth that extends far beyond material gifts.

Reducing Stress through Mindful Moments:

1. Set Realistic Expectations: Instead of striving for perfection in every holiday detail, set realistic expectations. Understand that it's okay if everything doesn't go according to plan. Flexibility can be a powerful antidote to stress.

2. Create Rituals: Establishing simple and meaningful rituals can help ground your family during the holiday season. Whether it's a special bedtime story, a family game night, or a cozy movie marathon, these rituals create a sense of continuity and togetherness.

3. Unplug and Be Present: Consider setting designated times to unplug from technology. Put away the smartphones, turn off notifications and fully engage with your children. This not only models the importance of being present but also allows for genuine, uninterrupted connections.

4. Mindful Breathing: When the holiday chaos starts to feel overwhelming, take a moment for mindful breathing. Close your eyes, take deep breaths and focus on the present moment. This simple practice can help alleviate stress and bring a sense of calm to your hectic schedule.

Finding Joy in Simple Moments:

1. Quality Over Quantity: It's not about how many activities you can squeeze into the holiday schedule but about the quality of the time spent together. Cherish the simple, everyday moments, like baking cookies, decorating the tree, or taking a leisurely stroll through the neighbourhood to admire the holiday lights.

2. Express Gratitude: Encourage a spirit of gratitude by taking time each day to reflect on the positive aspects of your life. This can be a powerful way to shift focus away from stressors and appreciate the joy that surrounds you.

In the midst of the holiday hustle, being present with our families is a gift that transcends the material trappings of the season. By embracing the importance of presence and incorporating mindful practices into our daily lives, we can create a holiday experience filled with connection, joy, and lasting memories. So, let's slow down, savour the simple moments and navigate the holidays with a sense of calm and appreciation for the precious time we have with our loved ones.

Hope you all have a wonderful time.

Nurturing Conversations Around Loss & Grief

Helping Parents Guide Children Through Loss and Grief

In the gentle ebb and flow of life, we all encounter moments of profound change, where the delicate threads that weave our stories together face the inevitable touch of loss. Recently, my family and I traversed such an emotional landscape, navigating the heart-wrenching decline in the health of someone dear to us. Communicating this tragic journey to our three-year-old daughter, added an additional layer of complexity to our experience. Yet, in the midst of these emotions, a renewed sense of energy and purpose emerged, propelling me to share a guide born out of compassion. This guide is not only a reflection of our personal journey but also an offering to parents seeking solace and tools to navigate the tender conversations with their children about loss and grief.

The Importance of Addressing Loss and Grief with Children:
Navigating the conversation about loss and grief with children is a crucial aspect of their emotional development. Children, like adults, experience a range of emotions when faced with the reality of loss, and addressing these feelings is essential for their well-being. Often, children may not fully grasp the concept of loss, and unspoken emotions can lead to confusion or anxiety. By initiating open and age-appropriate discussions, parents can provide a supportive framework for their children to understand and express their emotions. Furthermore, addressing grief helps instil resilience, emotional intelligence, and coping mechanisms early in life. By fostering a safe space for these conversations, parents play a pivotal role in shaping their children's emotional intelligence and ability to navigate the complexities of life.

Introducing "The Little Star" as a Soft Introduction to the Topic:
In the tender realm of childhood, storytelling becomes a powerful tool to convey complex emotions gently. Our picture book"The Little Star" serves as a compassionate introduction to the topic of loss. Through its soft narrative and cute illustrations, the book gently explores themes of change, letting go, and the enduring power of memories. It is designed to resonate with young hearts, offering a comforting story that acknowledges the reality of loss while wrapping it in the warmth of understanding. This book is not just a tale; it's a gentle guide, inviting children to explore and express their emotions in a way that feels both natural and reassuring. By incorporating "The Little Star" into these conversations, parents provide a tangible resource that speaks to the hearts of children, paving the way for meaningful dialogues about loss, grief, and the enduring beauty of love. This book is due to be re-released in January in a new format with information and activities included to help parents and children begin conversations around this topic. Please get in touch if you would like to reserve your copy.

Choosing the Right Time: Navigating Delicate Conversations

Discussing loss with children requires thoughtful consideration of the timing, taking into account their age and emotional readiness. Timing is an essential factor that can significantly impact a child's ability to absorb, comprehend, and cope with the information.

Create a Safe and Comfortable Environment:

Conversations about loss should ideally occur in a quiet and familiar setting where children feel safe and supported. This environment fosters openness and encourages children to share their thoughts and feelings. Have a favourite soft toy on hand to help your child feel comfy and safe.

Our Personal Experience:
In our own journey, we discovered that choosing the right time significantly influenced our daughter's ability to process the information. We found that speaking with her during calm moments, such as during a quiet lunch or a peaceful afternoon, helped create an atmosphere conducive to understanding. During these moments, our daughter felt secure and more willing to engage in conversation.

Reassure and Be Available:
Let your child know that you are available to talk whenever they are ready. By reassuring them of your presence, you create an open invitation for them to express their thoughts and ask questions.

Non-Judgmental Atmosphere:
A safe space is one free of judgment, where children feel they can share without fear of criticism. This encourages them to be honest about their emotions and thoughts.

Open Communication Channels:
A safe environment promotes open communication. Children are more likely to engage in conversations when they feel that their thoughts and questions are welcomed and respected.

Choosing Your Words:
With young children being honest and simply matter-of-fact helps them to understand, as an adult, it can feel cold to use such blunt language but to a child who has very little experience or concept of death being clear helps them to understand the situation.

Normalize Emotions:
By acknowledging that it's okay to feel a range of emotions, including sadness, parents contribute to normalising the grieving process. This normalisation can alleviate any potential guilt or confusion a child may experience.

Physical Comfort:
Consider the physical aspects of the space as well. Ensure that the environment is cosy and inviting, perhaps with comforting items like blankets or stuffed animals, which can provide a sense of security.

Understanding Grief as a Process:
Grief is not a linear journey; it's a process with ups and downs. Helping children understand that it's normal to experience a range of emotions over time is key to managing expectations and alleviating any sense of confusion or guilt.

Modelling Emotional Expression:
Parents can lead by example, demonstrating healthy ways to express their own grief. By openly sharing their emotions and coping mechanisms, they provide a blueprint for children to navigate their own feelings.

Empathy and Connection:
Reinforce that everyone grieves differently, and it's essential to approach the process with empathy and understanding. By recognising and respecting each family member's unique journey, children learn the importance of supporting one another through the grieving process.

Encourage Questions:
Create an environment where questions are welcomed and answered honestly. This fosters a sense of security and trust, allowing children to seek clarification and guidance as they grapple with the complexities of loss.

Activities to Strengthen Connection: Keeping Memories Alive
In the wake of loss, introducing activities that foster a tangible connection between children and the departed loved one can be a powerful way to navigate grief and celebrate cherished memories. These activities not only provide a means of expression but also serve as enduring reminders of love and connection. Here are some meaningful activities to consider incorporating into your toolkit:

Memory Jar:

Invite your child to create a memory jar or box where they can place photos, notes, drawings, or small mementoes that remind them of special moments with their loved ones. This ongoing project allows for a continuous reflection on positive memories and provides a tangible, comforting outlet for emotions.

How to do it: Set aside dedicated time to contribute to the memory jar. Encourage your child to share memories, express feelings, or create drawings that represent their connection. This can be a solo or family activity.

Why: The memory jar becomes a visual representation of the enduring bond with the departed loved one. It offers a tangible space for a child to revisit memories, fostering a sense of continuity and connection.

Planting a Memorial Garden:
Create a memorial garden where you and your children can plant flowers, herbs, or a small tree in honour of loved ones. This living tribute not only provides a serene space for reflection but also offers a tangible, growing symbol of the enduring nature of love.

How to do it: Choose a location for the memorial garden and involve the child in selecting and planting the chosen flora. Encourage them to spend quiet moments in the garden, fostering a sense of connection and peace.

Why: The act of planting and nurturing a garden imparts a sense of responsibility and growth. Watching the garden flourish becomes a comforting reminder of the ongoing presence and impact of their loved one.

Creating a Memory Book:
Develop a memory book filled with photographs, drawings, and written memories. Encourage the child to contribute their thoughts and feelings, creating a personal keepsake that can be revisited whenever they need a comforting reminder.

How to do it: Gather materials such as a scrapbook, photographs, and art supplies. Dedicate time to reminisce and create pages that capture the essence of their relationship with the departed loved one.

Why: A memory book becomes a cherished artefact, offering a concrete representation of shared experiences and love. Flipping through its pages provides a comforting ritual that celebrates the positive moments.

Storytelling Nights:

Establish a routine of storytelling nights where family members share anecdotes, stories, and memories about the departed loved one. This creates a space for open dialogue and allows children to hear different perspectives on their shared history.

How to do it: Set aside a specific time each week or month for storytelling. Encourage each family member to contribute a story, fostering a collective narrative that reinforces the bonds of family and love.

Why: Storytelling nights promote a sense of continuity and shared history. They allow the child to hear about their loved one's impact on different aspects of family life, reinforcing the enduring connection through shared narratives.

Letter-Writing Rituals:

Initiate a letter-writing ritual where your child can compose letters to their departed loved one. Whether written, drawn, or spoken aloud, these letters provide an ongoing avenue for communication and expression.

How to do it: Provide materials such as paper, pens, or a designated space for spoken letters. Encourage the child to express their thoughts, feelings, and updates in a letter format.

Why: Letter-writing rituals offer a sense of continued connection and provide an outlet for expression. Whether through words or drawings, the act of communicating helps the child feel heard and understood.

Explain the Significance:

These activities hold profound significance as they contribute to keeping the memory alive in a positive and comforting way. They serve as interactive expressions of love and remembrance, allowing children to actively engage with their emotions while nurturing a sense of connection with their departed loved one. By integrating these activities into the grieving process, parents offer children tangible tools for healing, fostering resilience, and providing lasting tributes to the enduring power of love.

Guest Post By Veronique Mertes

Why Building Resilience In Childhood Is So Important

Have you ever wondered why building resilience in childhood is so important?

Resilience is a bit like the scaffolding and concrete holding the different parts of a house together. In the same way as we build a house, starting with a safe structure that is solid and helps us feel safe and protected, resilience is a strengthening factor that helps us to stand strongly on the ground regardless of the circumstances around us.

Like a great recipe, tested again and again, adjusted to make it better, thought through and reliable, resilience creates a new version of ourselves after each incident that did not break us.

It is like an old-fashioned photo album of good and bad events which have shaped us and made us into the person we are now. How well we coped with what life has thrown our way will depend on how we have been taught to perceive, navigate and react to what happens to us.

What exactly is resilience?

Resilience by definition is ‘the capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties…an ability to spring back into shape’.

This assumes that we go through something difficult and then recover. It does not say ‘someone comes along and makes everything bad or difficult go away’. There are obstacles and we navigate them, similar to the bear hunt, we need to learn to go through them.

Why building resilience is so much better than ‘fixing it’

When our children are babies, we need to do everything for them, exterminate dangers and create pure safety. They are so dependent, it’s our job to protect them all day long. But gradually their progress is aimed at their increasing independence, to leave home one day and live without us watching over them.

Why is resilience important for a child?

Working with parents over the last few years, I have noticed that our idea of resilience has morphed into the idea of us parents creating a perfect world for our children, free of conflict and obstacles; trying to adjust the world on the outside to the needs of our children, removing all difficulties, rather than strengthening our children to cruise this world.

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It is no coincidence parenting styles like ‘helicopter-parent’ and ‘tiger-mum’ have been used to describe our deep desire to support our children, sometimes with extreme measures.

The reason for this, not surprisingly, is that our world has changed so much.

Most of us parents might remember a time when we freely roamed the streets for hours without our parents knowing where we were.

We’d spend hours at someone else’s house or cycling through the village or town we were living in. Most of us had some kind of random ‘be home at dinner time’ timetable.

What this ‘free range’ life gave us was a huge palette of experiences and situations we had to handle ourselves, deal with, negotiate with peers and make decisions on the spot. We got to see what the immediate results and consequences of our decision were.

This enabled us to learn directly from those unique moments and learn by experience.

What has changed?

• The world is more dangerous: more traffic and more awareness around ‘dodgy’ people trying to approach children has increased our instinct to protect our kids accordingly

• We travel further to schools we like, making independent travelling impossible

• Busy schedules around work and after-school clubs making drop off and pick up a normality

• Friends and family live further away, our social networks have changed and are not always solid

• The world is interconnected and our parental brains are flooded with information and wisdom everywhere. We have lost touch with our ‘gut feeling’. Our primitive brain will do what it needs to protect at all cost.

The knowledge we have about everything from baby years to adulthood has changed and yet in terms of resilience, we have gone backwards. Starting school is no longer the start of more independence.

When is the start of independence and why is resilience important for a child?

Independence is a gradual process starting from birth. Our children, little by little, become independent, needing us a little less each time as they start to feed themselves, walk, use the toilet and talk. They gradually move away from us towards their own, one day, full independence.

How do I build resilience skills in my child?

• Strong relationships are a good basis for resilient kids. They learn by example and having different role models to observe is of great value. Different people have different wisdom, we all choose with whom to discuss different topics. Give kids a choice of people to relate to and make them feel safe, valued and supported.

• Nourish friendships: Having friends in school and outside of school is gold. If things fall apart in the school tribe, having a neutral caring person to go to is very reassuring and can be a lifeline for children.

• Normalising, welcoming and role modelling failure: ‘What did you fail at today?’ was what extremely successful businesswoman Sara Blakely was asked by her father daily. We all try many things hundreds of times before we are really good at it. With social media showing only the best of the best, make sure your kids can see that it is normal to try and fail many times before the actual success.

• ‘Driving instructor parent’: I created this word to describe my ideal parenting style. We sit, see, observe and advise but they have to do it themselves. Just like we wanted it when we were their age!

• Praising character traits rather than achievements/competence
  When we focus on our children’s character strengths and what comes to them naturally, we are focusing on who they are as a person. Recognising for example that our child is great at trying again and again or supporting others is of so much more value than praising the great score in a maths test. It will allow our children to recognise the strength they might need later in life. If we praise accomplishments and they do badly at some point, there is only a sense of failure. Being applauded for not giving up is a lifelong useful skill.

• Create a growth mindset by role modelling how to perceive things, a glass half-full kind of view. If things at school were difficult ask ‘That sounds difficult, how did you manage to get through the day?’, our child can recognise their strength and still feel like a winner after a dreadful day.

• Teach emotional regulation. Children learn by observation and imitating. If we model healthy emotional reactions by expressing our feelings and demonstrating calmness in difficult situations, they will too. In short, before we can teach children resilience, we need to strengthen our own.

• Teach them practical skills. In a world where children gradually increase their presence in the digital world, having practical skills is a massive bonus. Not only will this set them apart from their peers in the future it also gives them self-esteem as they are much more confident in finding solutions themselves.

Remember, building resilience is a lifelong process. We are all unique and the process is different for everyone. But as parents, we can certainly prepare the ground, use good quality ingredients and provide good instructions.

I hope you found this blog post by Veronique as insightful as I did. If you're eager to learn more about Veronique and the incredible support she offers to families, both in parenting and beyond, I warmly invite you to explore her website and reach out to her today. You can find her at:

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A little history into the story behind the D.O.G

Since the release of the second D.O.G book Take Care Before You Share, I’ve been talking a lot about online safety, but today I would like to take you back a moment and explain how it all began…

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To sustain and expand upon the meaningful work we've embarked on, we require your valuable assistance. We kindly request your support in spreading the word to help us expand our mailing list, which in turn aids in fostering digital resiliency among children, ensuring safe and enjoyable technology experiences for all.

Would you be willing to lend a hand?

If possible, sharing this link with your social media followers and encouraging them to join our mailing list would be a significant contribution to this vital mission:

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As a thank you for continuing to support this project, I have included our latest printable resources.

What’s in your resources pack?

Three great printable activities to help children learn important lessons so everyone can stay safer online.

• Family Agreement

• Create Your Own Online Safety Comic Book

• Personal Information Scavenger Hunt

The team is currently working on the next book in the Key Stage 1 series, to help children build their digital resilience. We are then planning to address Key Stages 2 and 3 in a whole new way to engage children as they grow and encounter more complex digital safety challenges.

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