Discovering the Magic of Nature: The Power of "The Creek" Episode in Bluey

Raindrops gently tapped on the window as the summer holiday morning unfolded. Our cozy retreat was the perfect setting for a relaxed morning of family bonding. As we scrolled through episodes on Disney+, one title stood out: "The Creek," an episode from the beloved show Bluey.

If you're yet to experience the magic, "The Creek" is a must-watch episode that delves into the essence of finding connection in nature and the profound significance of having a cherished haven during our formative years.

In this whimsical episode, the spirited Bluey and her younger sister Bingo embark on an enchanting journey to the creek near their home. The creek soon transforms into a sacred space for them—an oasis of natural beauty, creativity, and discovery. What follows is a heartwarming narrative that artfully encapsulates the pivotal role nature plays in nurturing emotional resilience.

As Bluey and Bingo immerse themselves in the wilderness, they stumble upon more than just rocks and water. They find themselves captivated by the symphony of nature—the rustling leaves, the babbling brook, and the secret world of creatures that thrive in their creek sanctuary. Through this immersive experience, the girls learn to appreciate the little wonders that often go unnoticed amidst the hustle and bustle of life.

Beyond the enchantment of the natural world, "The Creek" magnificently illustrates the transformative power of a special place. For Bluey and Bingo, the creek isn't just a destination; it's a canvas for their imagination, a cocoon for their creativity. This special place becomes a sanctuary where the demands of everyday life fade away, and they can cultivate their individuality and resilience.

Through the lens of these young explorers, we're reminded of the tranquility and joy that arise from having a personal haven. As adults, we often overlook the importance of forging a connection with nature and cultivating a cherished space to unwind and dream. In the relentless whirlwind of modern life, we can neglect the simplicity of observing the world around us and nurturing our emotional well-being.

The resonance of "The Creek" extends beyond its young audience. It strikes a chord with adults, serving as a gentle nudge to reconnect with the natural world. Our lives may be entwined with responsibilities and commitments, but as Bluey and Bingo exemplify, a brief retreat to nature can rejuvenate our spirits and replenish our emotional reserves.

When we offer our children the opportunity to explore nature and create their own secret havens, we gift them with the tools to build emotional resilience. By fostering a bond with the great outdoors, we encourage them to seek solace, evoke creativity, and develop a sense of wonder that can sustain them through life's challenges.

So, the next time you plan a family outing, remember the magic of "The Creek." Let's dedicate moments to venture into our cherished local spots, to experience the joy of untamed exploration, and weave memories that will echo through generations.

As the rain outside subsided, my heart felt lighter, rekindled by the reflections of a cherished episode. I'm determined to prioritise our relationship with nature and carve out spaces where imagination knows no bounds.

Thank you, Bluey, for not only entertaining us but also for being a guiding light on the path to emotional resilience.

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Managing End-of-Term Meltdowns

Effective Strategies for Managing Meltdowns and Other
Important Transitions.

Oh my goodness! Can you believe it's already the end of the term? It feels like just yesterday I got my little one settled into preschool, and now they're closing for the holidays!

If you're anything like me, you're probably feeling a mix of excitement and apprehension about the upcoming summer break. This is especially true for us because it's our first experience with school holidays. My 3.5-year-old daughter started preschool three days a week in January, so we haven't even completed a full year yet. I must admit, though, that I'm enjoying the extra time in my week to work on my own projects. It's been a refreshing break from the constant snack requests and TV demands.

However, whether we're ready or not, the end of the school term is approaching. So, I've decided to stop hiding under the covers and mentally prepare myself for what lies ahead. Gathering some helpful tips to navigate this transition. We'll explore effective strategies not only for managing end-of-term meltdowns but also for other important transitions such as bedtime routines, screen time management and changing activities.

So what do we mean by ‘Transitions’?

The International Journal of Transitions in Childhood, Vol.1, 2005 states that,

“Transitions have been defined as phases of life changes connected with developmental demands that require intensified and accelerated learning and that are socially regulated (Griebel & Niesel, 2004 Welzer, 1993).”

It goes on to say that, “Transitions can stimulate further development, but under adverse conditions lasting difficulties can occur, leading to problematic behaviour with disadvantageous consequences for the child.”

So basically any time your child changes from one situation, activity, or event to another this is a key opportunity to help them develop regulation skills that will benefit them throughout their lives.

So what does all this have to do with building resiliency? I hear you ask. Self-regulation is a key factor in building resiliency. The better we are at self-regulation in all aspects of our lives the better we are at coping with change.

Let’s take a look at of End-of-Term Meltdowns:

As the final days of the term draws near, it's not uncommon for children to exhibit unexpected behaviours ranging from dramatic outbursts to tearful moments. But why do these end-of-term meltdowns happen? According to research, several factors contribute to this phenomenon, including academic pressures, the anticipation of the holidays, and emotional exhaustion.

It's important to remember that you're not alone in experiencing these challenging moments that sometimes seem to defy all logic!

And it’s not just the school holidays that can be a challenge to navigate. Let’s have a look at some other common transitions that cause parental heartaches since their invention.

Bedtime Routine Transition:

Transitioning from busy daytime activities to a calm and restful bedtime routine can sometimes be a challenge for both children and parents. However, with a well-planned transition strategy, you can help ease this process. In our house, we start with the seven o’clock rule, which is when we begin telling our daughter bedtime is happening in 30 minutes. Then we begin tidying away the extra toys, clothes, food and anything else that is out, back into its place, while she is having her final drink of milk for the day, and slowly being ushered into the bathroom to brush her teeth and have a ‘before bedtime’ wee.

If we make it this far without a meltdown, I know she is ready and willing to go to bed, most evenings this is not the case! But she is only 3.5 and we just stay consistent but gentle with what’s happening. She understands what’s going on but when tired it’s easy for little ones to become dysregulated, so now I know this is the time when mummy cuddles are the most effective and not getting to shouty or upset myself has a massive impact on her transitioning into bed calmly.

If you can start by gradually winding down stimulating activities as bedtime approaches, it helps a lot. This can include turning off bright lights, engaging in quiet activities like reading or listening to soothing music, and establishing a consistent bedtime routine. Communicate with your child about the upcoming transition and involve them in decision-making, such as choosing a bedtime story or picking out pyjamas. Another tip I have, is saying ‘Do you want to brush your hair first or teeth?’ she loves to be in control.

By creating a predictable and calming routine, you provide a sense of security and signal to your child's body and mind that it's time to unwind and prepare for a good night's sleep.

Screen Time Management Transition:

In today's digital age, managing screen time transitions can be a significant concern for parents. Transitioning away from screens, whether it's from watching television, playing video games, or using electronic devices, requires setting clear boundaries and implementing effective strategies. Start by establishing consistent screen time rules and communicate them with your child. Use visual cues, such as a timer or a designated screen-free zone, to indicate when screen time is coming to an end. Engage in alternative activities that capture your child's interest, such as outdoor play, creative projects, or family game nights. By providing engaging alternatives and setting limits, you can help your child transition away from screens while promoting healthy habits and balanced activities.

Above all, whatever you have said, 5 min, 10mins or 2 hours, when it’s done, don’t back down. There is no wiggle room for one more episode or just 5 more minutes. It’s a slippery road to certain disaster! Stay in control of screen time and let your children know you are in charge here. It’s not to be cruel it’s just that the effects of prolonged screen time on children are well documented as having negative effects in many aspects of their development.

Changing Activities Transition:

Transitions between different activities throughout the day can sometimes lead to resistance or difficulty for children. Whether it's transitioning from playtime to mealtime or from outdoor activities to indoor tasks, having effective strategies in place can make these transitions smoother. First, provide clear and consistent expectations by using visual cues or verbal reminders. For example, using a visual schedule or a timer can help your child understand the upcoming change and mentally prepare for it. Offer choices when possible, allowing your child to have some control over the transition. This was a game changer for us our little girl loves to be independent and in control, so giving her choice, enabling her to be able to wash her own hands before we eat, all helps her have some control over meal times. Additionally, make the transition fun and engaging by incorporating songs, games, or other interactive elements. By making transitions enjoyable and empowering for your child, you can help them navigate changing activities with greater ease and cooperation.

Effective Strategies for Managing End-of-Term Meltdowns and Other Transitions:

1. Creating a Transition Plan:

Just like any time you have avoided stepping on Lego pieces while tiptoeing around your peacefully sleeping child, it's best to transition slowly and gradually into any type of transition. When it comes to summer holidays, start with winding down school activities in the days leading up to the end of term, allowing your child to mentally prepare for the changes. You can even involve them in creating a fun countdown calendar, marking off the days until the summer holidays begin. Click here for a blank calendar template to fill in week by week. With other types of transitions, it can be as simple as having a timer or gently reminding your child of what is about to happen next give lots of lead-in and explain what is going on and what you expect of them.

2. Promoting Relaxation and Self-Care:

Encouraging mindfulness exercises and engaging in relaxation activities as a family, such as yoga or meditation, can help both you and your child find moments of calm amidst the chaos. Remember, taking care of your own mental well-being is just as important as nurturing your child's.

3. Balancing Structure and Flexibility:

Creating a loose routine for the holidays provides a sense of stability, but it's also important to embrace spontaneous moments and fun surprises. Allowing for flexibility opens the door to new experiences and joyful memories. Who knows, your impromptu living room dance party might become a new holiday tradition! Or dancing into bed overnight might just work to burn off some end-of-the-day energy and ease the tantrums.

4. Encouraging Physical Activity:

Plan outdoor activities that allow your child to release pent-up energy.

Organise family-friendly sports competitions or enjoy nature walks together. Channelling a child’s energy into physical activities will not only uplift their mood but also improve their overall well-being. And who can resist a day at the beach? Refocusing time away from screens is also a great way to reconnect with your children being out in nature talking and observing the natural world has many positive effects on both children and adults. And if you have a particularly active little one who struggles with whining down at bedtime, try a structured workout before bed, here’s a toddler workout that might help. Alternatively, it might be to do with not being mentally stimulated enough during the day, try a few brain games, we are doing a few phonics and sounds blending before bed at the moment it is helping a lot with calming down and focusing any mental energy she not used up during the daytime.

5. Nurturing Emotional Well-being:

Provide opportunities for self-expression through art, writing, or other creative outlets. Engage in heart-to-heart conversations, allowing your child to share their thoughts and feelings about the term and the upcoming break. You might be surprised by the profound wisdom that emerges from their young minds. Or not!

6. Injecting Humour into the Transition Process:

Now, let's add a dash of humour to the mix! We've all had our fair share of holiday mishaps, and they often make for great stories.

Remember that time you got car sick and accidentally ruined your sister's unopened birthday present? Oops! Or the time you sat on a wasp and got stung on the bum? (Both true stories) Laughter has a magical power to lighten stressful moments, so embrace imperfections and find humour in the chaos.

By implementing effective strategies such as creating transition plans, promoting relaxation, balancing structure and flexibility, encouraging physical activity, and nurturing emotional well-being, we can navigate all types of meltdowns and other transitions with a little more grace and humour. Don’t expect perfection, I firmly believe being a parent means letting go of any form of perfectionism. We just do the best we can at any given moment. But knowledge is power and the more you can understand yourself and your child the easier it is to navigate parenting at this time.

These strategies are not only supported by experts but also grounded in my own real-life experiences. Remember, meltdowns are not a reflection of your parenting but rather a universal phenomenon experienced by practically everyone, anywhere who has ever had to take care of a child. So take a deep breath, approach transitions with a light-hearted perspective, and create joyful memories that will last a lifetime.

Remember, each child is unique, and it may take some trial and error to find the strategies that work best for your family. With patience, consistency, and a supportive approach, you can navigate these transitions and create a more a little more calm for everyone.

How do you feel about the end of term? Are you excited to get going on holiday plans or stressing that it means certain chaos and total dis-regulation until September starts?

What are your strategies for bedtime transitions?

How do you manage screen time in your house? Let me know in the comments below.

I hope this blog has helped you to tackle transitions in a new way, from school holidays to bedtime we can all benefit from knowledge to help you and your little stars.

References:

Griebel, W. & Niesel, R. (2002a). Co-constructing transition into kindergarten and school by children, parents, and teachers. In H. Fabian & A.-W. Dunlop (eds.). Transition in the early years (pp. 64 – 75). London: RoutledgeFalmer.

Griebel, W. & Niesel, R. (2003). Successful transitions: Social competencies pave the way into kindergarten and school. European Early Childhood Education and Research Journal, Themed Monograph No.1 “Transitions”, pp. 25 – 33.

Griebel, W. & Niesel, R. (2004a). Transitionen. Weinheim: Beltz.

Griebel, W. & Niesel, R. (2004b): Transition competence of the child’s social system. Poster presented at the 14th Annual Conference on Quality on Early Childhood Education “Quality curricula: the influence of research, policy, and practice.” Malta, 1 – 4 August 2004

Developing Little Thinkers.

The Power of Critical Thinking for Young Children

As parents and carers, I am sure you understand all to well the vital role we all play in nurturing and fostering the intellectual growth of our children. Encouraging critical thinking from an early age is essential as it equips our children with the skills to navigate the complexities of the wider world, It also allows them to make informed decisions and become lifelong learners.

So, what are the main areas of critical thinking?

1. Enhanced Problem-Solving Abilities:

Critical thinking empowers children to approach problems from different angles, analyze information, and consider multiple solutions. According to a recent study, children who develop critical thinking skills demonstrate improved problem-solving abilities. By encouraging critical thinking, we help children develop creativity, resilience, and adaptability, enabling them to tackle challenges with confidence.

2. Improved Decision Making:

Critical thinking equips children with the ability to assess situations, evaluate options, and make reasoned decisions. This skill lays the foundation for responsible choices in various aspects of life, from academics to personal relationships. Research conducted by Facione and Facione (2007) suggests that individuals with well-developed critical thinking skills make better decisions. By nurturing critical thinking in young children, we empower them to make informed and thoughtful choices.

3. Building Effective Communication:

Critical thinking encourages children to express their thoughts clearly and coherently. It enables them to articulate ideas, engage in meaningful discussions, and actively listen to others' perspectives. According to a study published in the Journal of Language and Social Psychology, critical thinking skills positively correlate with effective communication. By fostering critical thinking, we promote effective communication and collaboration among young children.

4. Developing Analytical Skills:

Critical thinking nurtures analytical skills, enabling children to examine information critically, identify biases, and distinguish between fact and opinion. A study published in the journal Science shows that children who develop critical thinking skills are better able to analyze and evaluate information. By cultivating critical thinking, we foster a love for learning and equip children with the tools to navigate the vast amount of information they encounter.

Practical Strategies to Promote Critical Thinking in Young Children:

1. Encourage Curiosity:

Foster a sense of wonder by providing opportunities for exploration and discovery. Encourage children to ask questions, investigate, and seek answers independently. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, curiosity is a driving force for critical thinking development .

2. Problem-Solving Activities:

Engage children in age-appropriate problem-solving activities, puzzles, and games. These activities stimulate their minds, promote logical thinking, and develop perseverance. Research conducted by the National Association for the Education of Young Children supports the use of problem-solving activities to enhance critical thinking skills.

3. Open-Ended Questions:

Instead of seeking straightforward answers, pose open-ended questions that encourage children to think critically and express their opinions. This approach nurtures their ability to analyze and evaluate information. According to a study published in the journal Educational Technology Research and Development, open-ended questions promote critical thinking in children.

4. Storytelling and Reflection:

Read books together and discuss the characters' choices and actions. Encourage children to reflect on the story, make predictions, and analyze different perspectives. Storytelling enhances critical thinking by promoting analysis and interpretation skills, as mentioned in a study published in Early Childhood Education Journal.

5. Real-Life Connections:

Help children connect what they learn to real-life situations. Encourage them to think critically about the world around them, ask why things happen, and explore cause-and-effect relationships.

I hope this post has been helpful in starting to think how to help your little stars engage with critical thinking more.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

How do you get your children asking questions?
Do you have any games you play that get their brains working?
What are the stories that you talk about?
Let me know in the comments below.

LOVE YOURSELF . LOVE OTHERS . LOVE THE PLANET .

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From Fear to Fearless

How I used grounding techniques to help my daughter overcome her fear of swimming.

As a mum, I understand how challenging it can be to help our children cope with their emotions, especially when it comes to fear. Recently, I had an experience with my three-year-old daughter at the swimming pool, she panicked and went into a state of fear, but I was able to calm her down, ease her fears and go from a state of fear to fearless, in just 15 minutes, using a technique from my book Lolly, I Can Be Brave and So Can You.

It had been weeks since we had all been swimming together as a family, but as our little girl had had many swimming sessions I didn’t think much of it. As we arrived at the local pool on a beautiful sunny afternoon, my daughter's face lit up with excitement. She couldn't wait to get into the water. I had managed to convince her to wear a new swim vest with foam buoyancy aids, she was very sceptical at first but reluctantly tried it on, and she soon forgot about it as we entered to pool area. She jumped into the shallow end of the pool and started to splash around with pure joy.

At first, everything seemed fine, and she was having a great time. However, as she started to move further into the pool, the water got deeper, and she suddenly became aware of her surroundings. I noticed her face change from excitement to fear and she started to panic. I was by her side as she reached up and clung to me tightly. Her body was trembling, and her eyes were filled with anxiety.

I tried to calm her down, saying things like, ‘What’s wrong?, you have done this before, it’s all ok, you can do it.’, But she was too scared to let go of me. It was clear that she was struggling with a fear of the water, and in my surprise at her reaction, I was forgetting everyone I had learnt. My words were not having any effect, I was getting it all wrong. I knew I had to find something to help. So I stopped myself from saying anything else and thought for a moment.

As an author of a children's book about overcoming fear and anxiety, I have studied various techniques and strategies to help children manage their emotions. My good friend and contributor to my book gave me one of the best and most effective techniques that I have come across. A grounding technique, that helps to focus on the senses. I decided to use it to try and help my daughter.

At this point she had her eyes shut tight, and she was getting more agitated. Asking if we could go leave and go home. I so didn’t want that for her as I know she loves being in the water, but fears pop up at random times for toddlers as they develop a better understanding of the world around them.

I started by gently saying ‘Stop, breathe.’ I then asked her to look around and focus on something that she could see. I pointed to a colourful pool toy, and she looked at it, ‘an octopus’, she said nervously. Next, I asked her to listen to the sounds around her. We could hear the sound of children laughing, the water splashing, and the lifeguard talking. Then, I asked her to feel the water around her, and she noticed how warm and soft it felt. Lastly, I asked her what she could smell, the chlorine in the water. By focusing on her senses, my daughter was able to divert her attention from her fear and anxiety. I could see a little smile on her face and her grip around my neck was begging to ease, much to my relief.

After a few more minutes, the trembling had subsided, and she was more relaxed. I held her close and slowly carried her to the shallower end of the pool where she could stand. I continued to ask her to focus on her senses, and gradually, she became more confident. Soon, she was ready to try holding just my hands and kicking her little legs. As soon as she realised she wasn’t going to sink like a stone, and her head was above the water, she was away. I gently let go of her. She started to paddle, and I could see the joy and confidence in her eyes. It was incredible to see how quickly she had overcome her fear of the water.

In just 15 minutes, my daughter had gone from clinging onto me in fear to swimming independently and feeling so confident. In fact, she didn’t even want me to touch her, she wanted to swim to all the bath toys we had with us that were bobbing up and down all around her. I felt a tremendous sense of relief and pride in my daughter. This experience also reaffirmed my belief in the power of the techniques in my book. Lolly, I Can Be Brave and So Can You.

Helping children cope with fear and anxiety can be challenging, and every child is different but it is possible. Using techniques that focus on their senses can be an effective way to help children manage their emotions. The other big element of why this worked so well and so fast was my own confidence, in myself and in my daughter. I showed no fear, none at all, and I had been telling her right from the start that she could do it. But without a technique to back it up my words were empty. Now she has more confidence in me, to be able to help in situations when she is feeling nervous. Which is wonderful.

What we say and how we feel can have a huge impact on a child. If they can see the confidence in you then they will have an easier time finding it in themselves.

As a mother and an author, I have seen firsthand the benefits of these techniques and there are lots more at the back of the book to try out.

I’d love to hear from you. Please let me know if you have had success in tackling fears and anxiety. What techniques did you use and what worked for your child? Comment below I would love to share with our community to help each other and our children overcome their fears to live the best lives they can.

Lolly, I Can Be Brave and So Can You is now available as a Kindle digital book.
Click here to find out more.

References:

• Leong, K. (2020). The Little Book of Calm: Techniques for Overcoming Anxiety and Fear in Children. London: Summersdale Publishers.

• Roth, S. (2021). Helping Children Overcome Fear and Anxiety: A Guidebook for Parents. New York: Guilford Press.

Scam Call Checklist Explained!

Scam Call Checklist Explained! - Everything you need to know about telephone scams and how to avoid them.

After my experience of being scammed the other day, you can read all about that over in my blog post “What Being the Victim of a Telephone Scam Has Taught Me About Myself.” I did some research about scamming and then got some help organising it into something useful by some clever AI tech. So, grab a cuppa and take a few minutes to learn how to use the Downloadable Checklist Card and safeguard yourself and your loved ones from the dangers of telephone scams and hopefully, you will do far better at spotting a scammer than I did.

If you don’t have one yet, you can download it right here.

So what is this card and how can it help you?

After my experience, I wanted to help myself and others not fall for the same scam. I created a small pocket-sized card with 4 simple instructions for anyone to follow when taking a call from an unknown number.

On the card you will find these steps:

1. STOP. THINK. This could be a scam! regardless of what the other person is saying and how serious it may sound. Always stop and think, is this plausible, how can I verify what I’m being told?

2. What company are you from? (You will need to know this information for step 4). Scammers tend to use real company names, but you need to know which company is calling you, to help you verify the call later, and if it is a scam, it’s important when reporting that you can identify which company the scammers are using to trick people. This can help the police with their investigation.

3. What is your name? A scammer is not lightly to give you their real name but again this information is useful for step 4, and to help the police if you are being scammed.

4. I will call you on your official number. This is the most important step. Regardless of what you are being told or asked to do, make sure YOU CALL THEM.

NEVER take any contact details always go to the official website and find the information yourself. If everything is fine you will be able to reach the department again through the proper channels.


Let's take a look at the different types of telephone scams that you should be aware of. Here are a few examples:

1. Banking scams: These scammers pose as bank officials and convince their victims to reveal sensitive account information, passwords, or PIN numbers.

2. HMRC scams: In this type of scam, fraudsters claim to be from HM Revenue and Customs and threaten legal action if you don't pay a phoney tax bill.

3. Lottery scams: Scammers inform their victims that they've won a huge sum of money, but before they can claim it, they must pay a processing fee or taxes. Don't fall for it!

4. Tech support scams: These crafty scammers pretend to be tech support representatives and persuade unsuspecting victims to grant them access to their computers. They then charge hefty fees for unnecessary repairs.

Now that you know the types of scams to watch out for, let's talk about how to recognize the warning signs. As busy parents, it's crucial to stay vigilant and keep an eye out for these red flags:

1. Unsolicited calls: Scammers often catch us off guard with unexpected calls, claiming to be from trusted organizations. Don't let them fool you!

2. High-pressure tactics: These fraudsters will try to rush you into making hasty decisions, preventing you from taking the time to think things through. Remember, it's okay to take a step back and assess the situation.

3. Requests for personal or financial information: Legitimate organizations will never ask you to provide personal or financial details over the phone. If someone does, it's a big warning sign!

4. Threats or intimidation: Scammers may resort to intimidation tactics, using threats to scare you into compliance. Don't let their fear tactics work on you!

Now, here are a couple of real-life examples of how scammers are using advanced technology to trick people. These cases demonstrate the need for extra caution:

In 2019, a CEO of a UK energy firm fell victim to a "deep fake" audio impersonation. The scammers used AI-powered technology to manipulate audio, making it seem like the CEO was instructing a transfer of £243,000 to the CEO of their company's German parent firm (BBC News, 2019). It's a stark reminder that scammers are constantly evolving and using sophisticated methods to deceive us.

Another example involves the use of chatbots. Scammers are employing AI-powered chatbots to simulate human conversations, making it harder for us to identify that we're actually speaking with a machine. These chatbots may impersonate customer service representatives or tech support, tricking us into divulging sensitive information or downloading malicious software onto our devices. Watch out for my next blog on AI Scams to scare parents.

To protect yourself and your family from these new AI-powered scam tactics, it's essential to take extra precautions when receiving unsolicited calls or messages. Always approach them with caution and remember these key tips:

1. Be cautious: Treat unsolicited calls or messages as potential scams until proven otherwise. Don't rush into sharing personal information or financial details unless you're absolutely certain about the legitimacy of the caller.

2. Report suspicious calls: If you encounter suspicious calls, report them to the appropriate authorities. Organizations like the Financial Conduct Authority or Action Fraud can investigate and take action against scammers.

3. Safeguard personal information: Keep your personal information secure. Avoid sharing it online unless necessary, shred sensitive documents before discarding them, and regularly monitor your credit reports for any suspicious activity.

4. Educate your children: Teach your children about telephone scams and how to identify them. Make sure they understand the importance of not giving out personal or financial information over the phone without your permission.

5. Stay informed: Stay up to date with the latest scam trends by reading news articles and following reliable sources like the Financial Conduct Authority or the Citizens Advice Bureau. Sharing information with friends and family can also help protect them from falling victim to scams.

Remember, as busy parents, you have a lot on your plate, but staying informed and vigilant can go a long way in safeguarding your family from telephone scams. By being sceptical of unsolicited calls, conducting research, not relying solely on caller ID, and utilizing call-blocking services, you can reduce the risk of falling prey to these fraudulent schemes.

It's unfortunate that scammers are using advanced technologies like AI to deceive people, but with knowledge and proactive steps, you can stay one step ahead of them. By nurturing a sense of scepticism, staying informed, and fostering open communication with your family, you can create a safe environment where telephone scams are less likely to cause harm.

Remember, you're doing an amazing job as a parent, and protecting your family from scams is just another way you're demonstrating your love and care. Stay informed, stay alert, and together, we can outsmart those scammers and keep our loved ones safe.

Here is a list of helpful websites in the UK that can provide assistance and information regarding scams:

1. Action Fraud: The UK's national fraud and cybercrime reporting centre. You can report scams and get advice on fraud prevention. Website: www.actionfraud.police.uk

2. Citizens Advice: Provides free and impartial advice on various topics, including consumer rights, scams, and fraud prevention. Website: www.citizensadvice.org.uk

3. Financial Conduct Authority (FCA): The regulatory body for financial services in the UK. It offers resources and guidance on avoiding investment scams and protecting your money. Website: www.fca.org.uk/scamsmart

4. Trading Standards: Local Trading Standards offices can offer support and advice on scams and consumer protection in your area. Website: www.tradingstandards.uk

5. Take Five to Stop Fraud: A national campaign backed by major banks and other organizations to help you protect yourself from financial fraud. Website: www.takefive-stopfraud.org.uk

6. Get Safe Online: Provides practical advice and resources to protect yourself and your family from online scams, identity theft, and other cyber threats. Website: www.getsafeonline.org

7. Phone-paid Services Authority (PSA): Regulates premium rate phone services and provides guidance on dealing with phone-related scams and complaints. Website: www.psauthority.org.uk

Remember, these websites are valuable resources to help you stay informed and protected. If you encounter any suspicious activity or believe you have been targeted by a scam, don't hesitate to report it and seek guidance from the appropriate authorities.

Let me know in the comments below if this information was helpful.

References:

• Forbes. (2019, Sep 3). It’s the first noted instance of an artificial intelligence-generated voice deepfake used in a scam. https://www.forbes.com/sites/jessedamiani/2019/09/03/a-voice-deepfake-was-used-to-scam-a-ceo-out-of-243000/

• Voice Clone AI Scams: What You Need To Know About This New Scam
  https://www.gobankingrates.com/saving-money/savings-advice/ai-scam/

• Citizens Advice: www.citizensadvice.org.uk

• Action Fraud: www.actionfraud.police.uk

I Got Scammed!

What Being the Victim of a Telephone Scam Has Taught Me About Myself.

Are you a busy parent who's constantly juggling work, household chores, and your children's needs?

If so, then like me, you know that receiving an unexpected call can be a major disruption to your day. But what if that call is from a scammer trying to trick you out of your hard-earned money or sensitive personal information? Unfortunately, that’s exactly what happened to me yesterday.

I was doing the school run and was parked with my engine off waiting to begin the 5 min ferry journey to my daughter’s school.

My phone goes and to begin with, I hesitate but not recognising the number I figure it will be very quick as it’s probably a wrong number, I’ve had a few of those recently.

So I answer to the voice of a very well-spoken man with a British accent telling me I have been the victim of a fraudulent payment on my account. He didn’t want any personal info but just needed to confirm my details and everything will be sorted as the bank had caught the payment before anything had happened.

Ok, I say, thinking I’m not giving any details away. He asks a few general questions and then reads my back the information on my entire card including the 3 digits on the back. Not thinking and in a rush to now leave, I say yes, so what do I do now? that’s it and he hangs up. Only then do I realise I’ve been scammed.

Feeling like an idiot I called my bank right away and cancelled my card and blocked my account. Thankfully other than a few subscriptions I need to update and a new card on its way, I feel I may have avoided something that could have been far worse.

I do now have to be far more aware of other scammers contacting me in future because undoubtedly he would have sold all my personal information and data that will now be on in internet waiting to be used again and again.  I feel like a complete idiot!

But this experience has taught me some valuable lessons. Mainly, not to answer my phone when I’m in a rush. But, also that like many other mums out there I’m sure, I often find myself trying to multi-task my way through the day. I very often find myself thinking crazy things like: “if only there was a way I could shower, brush my teeth and eat breakfast at the same time, then I could save myself at least 10 minutes every morning. Who knows what I could get done in that amount of time?” yes I know what you are thinking, Crazy Lady!! I am thinking it too, I’m not sure how I ended up like this, it has just slowly crept up on me over the last 2 years. Gone are the days when I can just sit down and calmly plan my day ahead.

I feel like I’m on the go 24/7 and I have just had a very real reminder of why that is not a healthy way to be.

So what can I do about this?

Well, being the creative type that I am I found out what I should have done and then made myself a small printable Scammers Checklist to keep with me at all times.

I even laminated mine. Don’t judge me!

Feel free to download it and share it with everyone you know.

The next thing I have learnt is that I really need to slow the hell down. Since coming out of the pandemic and back into work, now that my little girl is at preschool I find myself trying to fit more and more into my days. My mum friends agree, a school day just isn’t long enough to get everything done.

But that is the whole problem here, it’s not the time I have maybe it is how I think about it. If I didn’t have so much going on in my head every morning, maybe I wouldn’t have been caught off guard.

I know that life as a parent is busy, and is always going to be busy, but I’ve decided to give myself a break from emotionally beating myself up all the time for not getting everything done every day, and instead slow down a little and enjoy my life more.

And keep the checklist close by. ;)

I researched as much information about scamming in the UK as I could and then got some help organising it into something useful by some clever AI tech. So, grab a cuppa and take a few minutes to learn how to safeguard yourself and your loved ones from the dangers of telephone scams, and hopefully, you will do far better at spotting a scammer, if you find yourself in a similar situation as me. You can read this blog post here. ‘Scam Call Checklist Explained! - Everything you need to know about telephone scams and how to avoid them.’

Reconnecting with Nature

The Key to Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Loneliness on
Earth Day and Beyond.

As Earth Day approaches on April 22nd, it is important to consider the many benefits that nature provides for our mental and physical well-being. With the rise of anxiety, loneliness, and depression, finding connection in nature has become increasingly important for maintaining our mental and physical health.

Nature has a powerful calming effect on the mind, and studies have shown that spending time in nature can help to reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. Being surrounded by natural beauty can help us to feel more relaxed and at ease, and can also help to boost our mood and overall sense of well-being.

In addition to its calming effect, nature also provides us with a sense of connection and belonging. Many of us feel disconnected from the natural world, but by spending time in nature, we can develop a deeper appreciation for the interconnectedness of all things. Whether it is watching a butterfly flutter by or listening to the sound of a babbling brook, being in nature can help us to feel more connected to the world around us.

Another important benefit of connecting with nature is its ability to reduce stress. In today's fast-paced world, stress is a common problem that can lead to a host of health issues, including high blood pressure, heart disease, and stroke. Spending time in nature can help to reduce stress by lowering our cortisol levels, which is the hormone responsible for stress.

Finally, connecting with nature can also help to improve our physical health. Studies have shown that spending time in nature can help to boost our immune system, improve our cardiovascular health, and even help to lower our risk of chronic diseases such as diabetes and obesity.

So how can we find connection in nature? There are many ways to do so, from taking a walk in the park to going on a hike in the mountains. Even something as simple as sitting in your backyard and listening to the birds can help you to feel more connected to nature.

As we celebrate Earth Day on April 22nd, it is important to remember the many benefits that nature provides for our mental and physical well-being. Whether it is reducing symptoms of anxiety and depression, helping us to feel more connected and at ease, or improving our overall physical health, spending time in nature is an important part of maintaining our well-being.

If you are trying to find some ways to help introduce your children to the wonderful benefits of nature and the importance of finding connection check out my book ‘The Last Piece of Puzzle’.

References:

1. Bratman, G. N., Hamilton, J. P., & Daily, G. C. (2012). The impacts of nature experience on human cognitive function and mental health. Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences, 1249(1), 118-136.

2. Li, Q. (2010). Effect of forest bathing trips on human immune function. Environmental health and preventive medicine, 15(1), 9-17.

3. Park, B. J., Tsunetsugu, Y., Kasetani, T., Kagawa, T., & Miyazaki, Y. (2010). The physiological effects of Shinrin-yoku (taking in the forest atmosphere or forest bathing): evidence from field experiments in 24 forests across Japan. Environmental health and preventive medicine, 15(1), 18-26.

4. Ulrich, R. S. (1984). View through a window may influence recovery from surgery. Science, 224(4647), 420-421.

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Sibling Rivalry and How to Calm the Rage

Sibling rivalry is a common occurrence in families with more than one child. It is natural for siblings to compete with each other and argue from time to time, but when these conflicts become frequent and intense, they can create a stressful environment for the entire family.

One of the main causes of sibling rivalry is the need for attention and affection from parents. Children may feel threatened by their siblings, especially if they feel that their parents are showing favouritism or are not giving them enough attention. Jealousy can also play a role in sibling rivalry, especially if one child feels that their sibling is receiving more privileges or opportunities.

So, how can parents calm the arguments and competition between siblings? Here are a few tips:

1. Set clear rules and boundaries: Establishing clear rules and boundaries can help siblings understand what is expected of them and reduce the chances of conflicts arising.

2. Encourage positive behaviour: Recognise and praise positive behaviour, such as when siblings work together or show kindness towards each other. This can help siblings feel valued and encourage them to continue this behaviour.

3. Avoid showing favouritism: It is important for parents to show equal love and attention to all their children. Avoid showing favouritism, as this can cause resentment and jealousy between siblings.

4. Encourage independence: Encourage siblings to develop their own interests and hobbies. This can help reduce competition and give them a sense of independence.

5. Teach conflict resolution skills: Help siblings learn how to resolve conflicts peacefully by teaching them communication skills and problem-solving strategies.

By following these tips, parents can help reduce the intensity of sibling rivalry and create a more harmonious home environment. Remember, sibling rivalry is a normal part of family life, and it is important for parents to model positive behaviours and provide guidance to their children as they learn to navigate their relationships with each other.

Tips for Anxious Children

Anxiety is a common issue among children, and it can manifest in different ways. As a parent, it can be tough to see your child struggling with anxiety, especially when you don't know how to help them. Anxiety can make everyday situations challenging, such as attending parties or meeting new people. In this blog post, I will discuss tips and solutions for parents of anxious children, including examples of anxiety around holiday activities, like this Easter where meeting new people might be a challenge. I will also provide easy on-the-spot suggestions to break the cycle of anxiety, like doing some breathing exercises.

Understanding Anxiety in Children

Anxiety is a normal human emotion that everyone experiences at some point. However, anxiety can interfere with a child's daily life when it becomes persistent and intense. Children with anxiety may struggle to cope with everyday situations, which can lead to avoidance behaviours or excessive worrying.

It's essential to understand that anxiety is not a choice or behaviour that a child can control. Anxiety is a result of the brain's response to perceived threats or danger. It's important to recognize that anxiety is a valid issue requiring treatment.

Examples of Anxiety in Children

Anxiety can manifest in various ways in children. Here are some examples of anxiety around attending parties or meeting new people:

Social Anxiety: Social anxiety is a fear of social situations or being judged by others. Children with social anxiety may avoid parties or gatherings, struggle to make friends or feel uncomfortable in social situations.

Separation Anxiety: Separation anxiety is a fear of being away from parents or caregivers. Children with separation anxiety may struggle to attend parties or events without their parents or refuse to attend them.

Generalized Anxiety: Generalized anxiety is persistent and excessive worry about everyday events or activities. Children with generalized anxiety may worry about attending parties or meeting new people and may struggle with change or uncertainty.

Tips and Solutions for Parents of Anxious Children

1. Validate Your Child's Feelings

One of the essential things you can do as a parent is to validate your child's feelings. Let them know that it's okay to feel anxious and that you are there to support them. Avoid dismissing their feelings or telling them to "just relax." Instead, offer empathy and understanding.

2. Encourage Positive Self-Talk

Positive self-talk can help children manage their anxiety. Encourage your child to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. For example, if your child is worried about attending a party, encourage them to think positively about the event. Remind them of times when they had fun at parties or other events.

3. Practice Relaxation Techniques

Relaxation techniques like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and visualization can help reduce anxiety. Teach your child relaxation techniques and encourage them to practice them regularly. Deep breathing is an easy on-the-spot suggestion that you can teach your child. Encourage them to take slow, deep breaths and focus on their breathing.

4. Create a Plan for Coping

Creating a plan for coping can help your child feel more in control of their anxiety. Work with your child to create a plan for coping with anxiety in specific situations. For example, if your child is worried about meeting new people, create a plan for coping with this anxiety before you meet anyone new. This might include talking about what you are about to do, taking breaks when needed, bringing a comfort item, or having a signal to communicate with you if they need help.

5. Seek Professional Help

If your child's anxiety is interfering with their daily life, it may be time to seek professional help. A mental health professional can help your child develop coping skills and provide treatment for anxiety. Don't be afraid to seek help for your child. Anxiety is a real issue that requires treatment, and there is no shame in seeking professional help.

Conclusion

Anxiety can be challenging for children and parents alike. However, with the right support and tools, parents can help their anxious children manage their anxiety and improve their quality of life. By validating their child's feelings, encouraging positive self-talk, teaching relaxation techniques, creating a plan for coping, and seeking professional help if necessary, parents can help their children navigate anxiety-provoking situations.

Remember, anxiety is a real issue that requires attention, but with patience and persistence, children can learn to manage their anxiety and live a happy, fulfilling life.

References:

1. American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. (2017). Anxiety Disorders in Children and Adolescents. Retrieved from https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Anxiety-Disorders-in-Children-and-Adolescents-002.aspx

2. National Institute of Mental Health. (2021). Anxiety Disorders. Retrieved from https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/anxiety-disorders/index.shtml

The Importance of Emotional Resiliency for Parents

Having a high level of resiliency is essential for being fully present for your children and coping with the challenges of parenthood.

Raising children can be incredibly rewarding, but it can also be incredibly challenging. From the sleepless nights and constant demands of a newborn, to the tantrums of toddlers or a teenage rebellion, parenting can take a toll on a person’s emotional well-being.

Emotional resiliency allows parents to handle the stress and challenges of parenthood with grace and poise. When parents are emotionally resilient, they are better able to handle the ups and downs of parenting and maintain a positive attitude, even in the face of difficult situations. This not only benefits the parent, but it also benefits the children.

Children learn by example, and when parents model emotional resiliency, they teach their children how to cope with stress and difficult situations in a healthy way. This can help children develop their own emotional resiliency and set them up for success in the future.

One of the keys to building emotional resiliency as a parent is self-care. This includes making time for yourself, engaging in activities that you enjoy, and finding ways to relax and de-stress. It also includes taking care of your physical and mental health by eating well, getting enough sleep, and seeking help when needed.

Another important aspect of building emotional resiliency is learning to manage your thoughts and emotions. This includes learning to recognize when you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, and taking steps to address those feelings. It also includes learning to reframe negative thoughts and focus on the positive. Easier said than done, I know. But try to practice a little bit every day. I started with just one thought and over time it grew from there.

In addition, having a support system is key for emotional resiliency. This includes reaching out to friends, family, or a therapist for support and advice when needed. Joining a parenting group or community can also be a great way to connect with other parents who understand the challenges of parenthood.

So we know emotional resiliency is essential for parents to be fully present and engaged for their children and cope better with the challenges of parenthood. Building emotional resiliency takes time and effort, but it is worth it for the well-being of both the parent and child. Remember, self-care, managing your thoughts and emotions, and having a support system are key to building emotional resiliency. If you want some great practical tips on where to start with this read my blog ‘Where to start: 7 Tips to be an Emotionally Resilient Parent’.